When considering if you want to invest your spare cash in some coaching, the big question will be WHO are you going to work with?
How do you know which of these many life coaches is better? Which is most experienced? Which is most/least expensive? More importantly, which one is right for you and the issues you want to work on?
I have written this blog post to help you to make the decision of which coach to work with when you are weighing up the options. I hope you find this advice helpful and whether it is me or another coach you work with, I hope you find the answers you’re looking for.
What to take into consideration when choosing your coach…
Cost isn’t everything – I thought I’d respond to the cost question first because if you don’t invest properly in your life coaching then you will get less than you hope for from it, also because people generally dramatically under-estimate the value of life coaching. You want to work with someone who charges a decent rate and who also structures that service correctly. I used to work with people by the hour which, while initially cheaper, sometimes led to people dropping out, missing sessions and didn’t allow the needed time and support that is right for the individual. Now I charge for an outcome and over a period which I’ve found delivers better results. Work with someone who charges you about the cost of a new big screen TV for a month’s support, but who also provides you a huge amount of value and support for that investment. These are the coaches who will kick you in the right direction so go for someone who charges for a period of time (e.g. 1 month, 3 months etc) and work with them.
What is their speciality? – This may seem like a no-brainer. If you need a business coach you get a business coach, health coach you get a health coach etc etc. When it comes to life coaching however, there are a number of people to choose from with a large variety of experience and competence. How do you know who to go for? Any life coach worth their money will have a very specific niche of people they work with. I work exclusively with “successful men who are feeling frustrated and unfulfilled”, because I have extensive experience being such a person and have worked with hundreds of them over the years. Make sure the person you work with has specified you as their ideal customer and you won’t go wrong.
Have you spoken to them yet? – The majority of coaching is co-active coaching, where you will work 1 on 1 with a coach and it’s vitally important to scope them out before committing. Even the simplest thing such as not liking their hair, clothes, voice, accent etc can leave you loathing your sessions with them and will make it harder for you to stay motivated and committed. Most professional life coaches will offer you a formal free consultation up front so make sure and take advantage of that to scope them out.
How did you hear about them? – Personally, I’d avoid coaching directories online and large coaching organisations. The simple reason for this is that I tended to find there would, very often, be some sort of ‘up-sell’ to another of their products or that their coaching approach would be a ‘standard’ that doesn’t allow the flexibility that individual’s need. If you can get someone to refer a coach for you that would be ideal, otherwise, do a search on Facebook and Linked in and explore the many experienced independent coaches out there. Helping you is their living so you better believe they will work hard for you.
The relationship needs to be on fire – This is slightly harder to quantify but just as important. A good coach will always work hard for you; however, the most important factor is that you are comfortable with them. Feeling a strong connection with your life coach is vital. You will need to like them, enjoy seeing them, enjoy sharing with them, be able to be as open and honest with them as you can and as a result get the best out of their coaching as you can. If there’s anything about them that might cause you to hold back, then consider if this is the right coaching relationship for you.
What is their method, and will it work for you? – Some coaches use specific models and processes with their clients. Some coaches use spiritual techniques, energy techniques, crystals and any number of different approaches. Some use only 121 talking coaching, more like a counsellor in some respects. You need to decide for yourself which sort of coaching approach you feel comfortable with and which would work better for you based on your personality preferences and work preferences. I work with men, so my coaching approach is quite methodical and allows us to actually get to work and get to fixing things rather than just having regular long chats. I find that works best for men because we just want to get stuff sorted. Whatever approach your chosen coach uses, make sure it will work for you.
If you want to explore this further and you think the time is right for you, book a free consultation with me and we can figure out the best approach for you together. Good luck.